I kinda hate it too because yaoi is only really for the smutty stuff, there's a totally different word for gay romance but I will admit i refer to everything as yaoi because I just can't remember the other past "I think it starts with 'sh' and ends with '-ai'".
some people get confused.<most of the time they are just being stupid> but yaoi is strictly confined to lemony male homosexual anime and manga. if its not lemony then its boys love (shounen ai) and if its not anime or manga then its just a romance between men.
I know, but I wrote that a long time ago and I was going through a pretty rough time. Isn't it kind of sexist to objectify gay boys like that, though? Kind of like treating women as objects, Yaoi tends to treat guys like objects too.
Actually, it's more along the lines of queer fetishization & homophobia, but yeah, it is objectification.
I've always found yaoi problematic because it implies that one of the men/boys is the "girl" in the relationship, & for the fact that many romanticize abusive relationships &/or rape, which has nasty consequences for anyone in an abusive same-sex relationship since they have a harder time getting the help they need.
Especially the romanticizing abuse and rape part. I stay the hell away from the rest of the fandom now and I certainly don't look at other people's fanart anymore, it's just too risky. You can find it without trying because it's really popular out there. We all have things that press our rage buttons even if it's a bit irrational
I guess not... it's still kind of a deeply wounding subject for me that influences almost every Sonic thing I draw, even now. Which is a blessing in disguise for my art, actually. Makes me feel like Brian from Spaced: www.youtube.com/watch?v=jscUvr…
O_____________________O I love yaoi... But if I consider these two an item, I would keep them the way they are. =w= If there is a feminine character in yaoi, the writer and fans are missing the point of yaoi. It's BOY x BOY afterall.
Side note: They would make an adorable couple that starts out as drinking buddies and starts saying dirty things that escalate to dirty talk that escalates to----