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December 22, 2013


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Now that the holidays are upon us and the new year is just around the corner, allow me to give you a little positive life advise.

Take a chance.

I know, it's such a lame advise you hear all the time, but it's only recently I realized that's what happened to me. I used to have such a shitty lonely life because I always said no to everything because I was afraid of people. The few times I said yes and went to parties I was uncomfortable and always ended up leaving early.
Then I was offered to be a guest at a convention and I was very close to turning that down too. Just the thought of either sitting at a table and nobody caring or too many people caring and flooding me was terrifying. 

I ended up saying yes, and when I got there it turned out to be the second scenario. I was sitting in a ridiculously hot room over an indoor swimming pool and a wall of faces and arms around me asking for autographs, wanting hugs, taking photos, and all talking to me at once. Any of those people can confirm that I was terrified. I was shaking so hard I couldn't write my own signature, even my voice was shaking, and I had a lump in my throat like I was about to cry. The next day I was so frightened by the first experience I showed up very late. This meant things were a lot quieter and I actually had a chance to talk properly with a few people. 

That was when things turned around for me. I was afraid and didn't expect to click with the sort of people who went to conventions just like I had never clicked with the people who went to parties when I was younger. But I did and I went to a lot of conventions after that.
Things got weird and crazy for some time after that because I was suddenly known by a lot of people who were very different from me and expected something from me I couldn't deliver because I was only just coming out of lonely shell and didn't know shit and said shit as a result. But that also put me in contact with people who told me what's what and not only did I become more informed I also gained some friends.
Today I am at a level I am comfortable with. I have few close friends but that's all I need, and more people I can just meet up with a few times a year and have a good time with, not to mention a more moderate following on the Internet who stayed with me through my meltdowns and (continued) development who I feel less overwhelmed by.

So if you feel lonely or like life is going nowhere, next time you get the chance to go bird watching or someone suggest you come visit their knitting club even though you don't knit, give it a go. You might not like it and then you can just go home, but you might also like it. Or you might like it but get on a crazy roller coaster ride and suddenly find yourself living in a different country. ;)
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blenderous Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Agreed humon, gotta let it go, fly away into the wonderful crazy zone...loved reading your advice!
imaginationc Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2014
This is not the first time I read wise words from you. I know I can't change myself just by saying it, but perhabs I'll have to give it atry to that "Soft-combat" thing. So, whatever happens, thank you!
kage-niji Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Usually I start off in the uncomfy zone, strangely enough. But y'know, it's time to take a chance. Let things unfold. Unwind. Pull up my chair, watch life go by. Instead of running once I cop the first hit.
Nero--Angelo Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
damn, u know what
i will take a chance :3
omoimasuyo Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2014
Ryfkah Featured By Owner Dec 28, 2013
Thanks humon :)

I'll try to do this. It's hard for me to get out of my comfort zone, but I know that it usually ends up good if I do so. So yeah, I should definitly do this more often this year.
PastaLover5000 Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2013
Yeah, I'm kind of scared of people still. Well, on the Internet, I can talk and say whatever I want to people and not really care. But in real life, it's terrifying just to say hi to a stranger. Oh well. I'm trying to get out of it. Thank you for posing this, it made me feel good! :D
DragonDruids Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2013
We are just glad you have brought us along for part of the ride. Your art is unfailingly awesome.
NatalieOlenska Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2013  Professional General Artist
It's actually great advice.Thank you!
bluewolfyah123321 Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
so needed to hear this.....3:34am on meh needed to hear this
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